” Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it “
~ Mark Twain.
My mum and dad are next to each other, on my ‘phone voicemail. This is the closest they’ve been for more than fifty years. I know, there’s a whole ocean of water under that bridge. But I still get a thrill hearing their voices one after the other. In my head, this is them being together again, forgiving each other for those wrongs, injustices, sharp words and unkind acts carried out in the alternative universes of being in their twenties.
Some mental health professionals assert than forgiveness is vital for your own health and well-being, as well as those around you. Whether you are the perceived victim or perpetrator, forgiveness* is good for you! The ultimate win/win!!
*Wait up, we are not talking about being a doormat here or having differences of opinion that lead to healthy debate. We are talking about wrong-doing – no fuzziness here – and the need to accept the wrong-doing that you have done to others or others may have done to you, and move forward.
I don’t think wrong-doings are easily forgotten. I still remember things I did as a teenager, and more recently, that are frankly toe-curling. Likewise, folk have done stuff to me over the years that upsets me to this day, but I have still learned to forgive.
Who do you need to forgive today? (You can include yourself here). And are you allowing others to forgive you?
It’s a big subject and one that isn’t addressed in one article, but at least if you start thinking about it and let the idea of forgiveness float in your head, you can pat yourself on the back: the forgiveness healing magic has already begun.
© Suzy Rigg